“For how many people who are out there knocking themselves out to get good abs, I wish people would put that same effort into developing self-awareness.”
Making changes in our lives and how we interact with others is work, and it can be exhausting. But over time, I think you build up stamina for it like a physical workout. I like the idea of not “trying” some weeks and just observing your mastery of the changes you’ve already made.
there’s a character from a movie that shows what happens when a father doesn’t deal with his relationships and holds everything inside. we all need tools to allow us to communicate better. some families go camping or take a trip from the routine but when finances are tough there are fewer options. the factors you described about immigrant parents and other things outside your control became a form of trauma for you that you had to compensate for as you were frowning up. without tools we can form bad habits and coping mechanisms.
therapy seems important to provide ways to understand and deal with this but of course there are years of interactions to process. i love the way you are changing things up to see what works and what doesn’t. your feeling of guilt about tv are interesting, no? i love watching movies but typically have to be “working” to not feel guilty about it.
anyways, you should watch this movie. it will make you laugh and maybe you’ll see something relevant in the character played by Barry Otto as Doug Hastings, Scott's father and Shirley's husband. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Strictly_Ballroom
Making changes in our lives and how we interact with others is work, and it can be exhausting. But over time, I think you build up stamina for it like a physical workout. I like the idea of not “trying” some weeks and just observing your mastery of the changes you’ve already made.
I agree. Like with working out physically, the same weight doesn't require the same effort after attaining increasing levels of fitness...
there’s a character from a movie that shows what happens when a father doesn’t deal with his relationships and holds everything inside. we all need tools to allow us to communicate better. some families go camping or take a trip from the routine but when finances are tough there are fewer options. the factors you described about immigrant parents and other things outside your control became a form of trauma for you that you had to compensate for as you were frowning up. without tools we can form bad habits and coping mechanisms.
therapy seems important to provide ways to understand and deal with this but of course there are years of interactions to process. i love the way you are changing things up to see what works and what doesn’t. your feeling of guilt about tv are interesting, no? i love watching movies but typically have to be “working” to not feel guilty about it.
anyways, you should watch this movie. it will make you laugh and maybe you’ll see something relevant in the character played by Barry Otto as Doug Hastings, Scott's father and Shirley's husband. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Strictly_Ballroom
Thanks, Iben, for your thoughtful comment! I will check out the movie!